How to detect a stalker

Yeahhh my dearest readers.. u read the title right.. I am pretty sure that there are no spelling error or i purposely put the title but in fact i am writing a different story. Most of the people complaints about having a stalker in their life. Well, for my case, you can always choose to ignore, avoid or stay out of it.

For those who knows me well, i love movies. Because in movies (intel movies not war) they actually teaches you how to use your critical thinking. So, let me tell you.... How do i detect a genuine stalker? Be it your mum, grandma, drunk dad, psycho ex-bf, mentally ill ex-gf or even ur boss!! haha.. kidding.. But seriously, HOW?

The points below are mostly applicable for an online social networking sites (Facebook, Twitter Myspace, Friendster, Tagged and etc).

How to detect a stalker 101 by Ariff Syafik Bin Zulkifli

1. The mind of a stalker always think that they are the best and they are a perfect human being. They deserve to know everything. Yes EVERYTHING!!! Because of this, they tend to choose a profile picture which is similiar to their face, facial expression, hair colour and etc.

2. They will use a sexy and attractive (not nude) profile picture.

3. Their first status update would be this "Hi i'm XXXXXX and i'm new here".

4. There are no tagged photos of them. (They don't even exist, how do they have a tagged photos of them? Unless we create a new stalker social networking site) Hahahaha...

5. They will only say 'Thank you' or 'Nice to meet you too' to the idiots who actually approved their friend request.

6. They will start to add all your close friends.

7. They rarely update their profile pictures and status.

8. Whenever they update a status on their Facebook, and all those pervert guys start to comment, you will notice that none of them (The perverts) knows her.


And yes there are hell lots more for me to share. But i guess with this little info will helps you to remove all the stalkers right away. I mean NOW!!!

P/S = Take a look at few funny photos below. :p

Nasihat Imam Al-Ghazali

Gambar di atas hanya sekadar hiasan semata2

Assalamualaikum w.b.t dear readers. Lately, aku byk spend mase terluang membace articles baik secare on9 atau off9 (Buku2 dan Suratkhabar). Kadangkala, duduk bertapa sorg2 dalam bilik nie ada baiknya. Jgn ade yg jadi mereng atau bunuh diri sudahhhh.. hahahaha...

Anyway, aku teringatkan nasihat aku kepada peserta2 Kem Motivasi ketika aku bertugas sebagai Camp Consultant dan juga Fasilitator.. Yes aku pernah keje dalam hutan (Kem Motivasi) selama 3 bulan. Banyak yg aku belajar dalam tempoh yg singkat itu.. Aku tau korg mesti nk gelak tapi aku mmg terkenal dlm sifat suka mencuba kerje yg langsung x berkait dgn ape aku belajar waktu kolej.

Apepon, hari nie aku nk kongsi dgn korg Nasihat, Pesan atau boleh juga dikatakan soalan Imam Al- Ghazali kepada anak2 muridnya.


*Sumber diambil dari Internet dan diubahsuai bahasanya untuk memastikan pembaca yg kurang islamic terus membace (Bukan kau, kawan kau tu).. hahahaha..


Soalan pertama dari Imam Al-Ghazali, "Apa yang paling dekat dengan diri kita di dunia ini?".

Murid-muridnya ada yang menjawab orang tua, keluarga, guru, teman dan kerabatnya.

Imam Al-Ghazali menjelaskan semua jawapan itu benar. Tetapi yang paling dekat dengan kita adalah "MATI".

"Tiap-tiap yang bernyawa akan merasai mati, dan bahawasanya pada hari kiamat sahajalah akan disempurnakan balasan kamu. Ketika itu sesiapa yang dijauhkan dari neraka dan dimasukkan ke syurga maka sesungguhnya ia telah berjaya. Dan (ingatlah bahawa) kehidupan di dunia ini (meliputi segala kemewahannya dan pangkat kebesarannya) tidak lain hanyalah kesenangan bagi orang-orang yang terpedaya."
( Surah Ali Imran 185 )


Lalu Imam Ghazali meneruskan pertanyaan yang kedua. " Apa yang paling jauh dari diri kita di dunia ini?"

Murid-muridnya ada yang menjawab , bulan, matahari dan bintang-bintang. Lalu
Imam Al-Ghazali menjelaskan bahawa semua jawapan yang mereka berikan adalah benar. Tapi yang paling benar adalah "MASA LALU".

apapun kenderaan kita, tetap kita tidak mungkin dapat kembali ke masa lalu (korang jgn terpengaruh dengan cerita Back to the Future pulak). Oleh sebab itu kita harus menjaga hari ini dan hari-hari yang akan datang dengan perbuatan yang sesuai dengan ajaran Agama.


Lalu Imam Al-Ghazali meneruskan dengan pertanyaan yang ketiga. "Apa yang paling besar di dunia ini?"

Murid-muridnya ada yang menjawab gunung, bumi dan matahari.

Semua jawapan itu benar kata Imam Ghazali. Tapi yang paling besar dari yang ada di dunia ini adalah "NAFSU".

"Dan sesungguhnya Kami jadikan untuk neraka jahanam banyak dari jin dan manusia yang mempunyai hati (tetapi) tidak mahu memahami dengannya (ayat-ayat Allah), dan yang mempunyai mata (tetapi) tidak mahu melihat dengannya (bukti keesaan Allah) dan yang mempunyai telinga (tetapi) tidak mahu mendengar dengannya (ajaran dan nasihat); mereka itu seperti binatang ternak, bahkan mereka lebih sesat lagi; mereka itulah orang-orang yang lalai." ( Surah Al A'araaf 179 )


Pertanyaan keempat adalah, " Apa yang paling berat di dunia ini?"

Ada yang menjawab baja, besi dan gajah.

kata Imam Al-Ghazali, tapi yang paling berat adalah "memegang amanah".

Sesungguhnya Kami telah kemukakan tanggungjawab amanah (Kami) kepada langit dan bumi serta gunung-ganang (untuk memikulnya), maka mereka enggan memikulnya dan bimbang tidak dapat menyempurnakannya (kerana tidak ada pada mereka persediaan untuk memikulnya); dan (pada ketika itu) manusia (dengan persediaan yang ada padanya) sanggup memikulnya. (Ingatlah) sesungguhnya tabiat kebanyakan manusia adalah suka melakukan kezaliman dan suka pula membuat perkara-perkara yang tidak patut dikerjakan.
( Surah Al Ahzaab 72 )


Pertanyaan yang kelima adalah, " Apa yang paling ringan di dunia ini?".

Ada yang menjawab kapas, angin, debu dan daun-daunan.

kata Imam Al-Ghazali, tapi yang paling ringan di dunia ini adalah "meninggalkan solat". Gara-gara pekerjaan, kita tinggalkan solat, gara-gara meeting kita tinggalkan solat. Gara2 DOTA, WOW, COD4, Movie, Konsert kita meninggalkan solat (Amek kau kene batang hidung aku sendiri jugak).


Lantas pertanyaan ke enam adalah, " Apakah yang paling tajam di dunia ini?".

Murid-muridnya menjawab dengan serentak, pedang...

Imam Al-Ghazali, tapi yang paling tajam adalah "lidah manusia".

Kerana melalui lidah, manusia dengan begitu mudah menyakiti hati dan melukai perasaan saudaranya sendiri.

Yang baik datang dari ALLAH S.W.T dan yang lemah lagi buruk datang dari kelemahan dan kealpaan saya sendiri (TIbe2 bahase dari aku bertukar menjadi saye)... Anyway, aku harap korang dpt kongsi cerita ini agar dijadikan iktibar. Sambil2 lepak mamak tu selit2 la bab2 islamic sket.. Renung2kan dan Selamat Beramal. :)

A woman should...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to...





A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ......

something perfect to wear if the employer,
or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...



A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...

a youth she's content to leave behind....





A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to
retelling it in her old age.....




A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ......

a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...




A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ......

one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry...




A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .....

a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family...



A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...

a feeling of control over her destiny...




EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

how to fall in love without losing herself..



EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW....

how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend without;
ruining the friendship....




EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW....

when to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...



EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

that she can't change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..




EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

that her childhood may not have been perfect...but it's over....



EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...




EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...





EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW. .

whom she can trust,
whom she can't,
and why she shouldn't take it personally...




EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

where to go...
be it to her best friend's kitchen table..
or a charming Inn in the woods...
when her soul needs soothing...



EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

What she can and can't accomplish in a day...
a month...and a year...




AND REMEMBER:


GOOD FRIENDS ARE LIKE STARS.

YOU DON'T ALWAYS SEE THEM,

BUT YOU ALWAYS KNOW THEY ARE
THERE!!!!!!

Food for the soul

Have you noticed this... When we look for good things in situation - or people - We FIND them.
When we look for bad things, we FIND them too,

So, it't not changing your situation that makes you happier. It's changing your THINKING!!
If you look for faults in your job, friends, life partner - you will actually find plenty. Some people spend their life looking for faults - and then they tell you, "i'm just being REALISTIC!". It is not realistic! It is NEGATIVE Thinking!

Happy people contiually ask themselves, "What is good about this situation?"

Example :
You are stuck in a mass traffic jamm. You ask yourself, "What's GOOD about it?"
*You have time to listen to your favourite CD
*You can plan your day
*GOD might save you from an accident which might happened to you

Example :
You are short of money. You ask "What's GOOD about having no cash?"
*You learn how to save more
*You learn the difference between NEEDS and WANTS
*You become more determined to succeed


You might say this "That's INSANE! I'm fooling myself" Not every good things is the key to happiness.

In every situation, Look for the REASON why the things happened or as a muslim we call it "Hikmah".

It may be hard at first, Sooner rather than later, you will find yourself are more likely to be happy, peaceful and more tolerance in life.

Life is beautiful if you choose it to be that way.

This is an article that i received from a friend of mine. Something worth to read.


Sometimes people come into your life and you
know right away that they were meant to be
there. They serve some sort of purpose, teach you
a lesson, or help figure out who you are or who
you want to become. You'll never know who these
people may be, your roommate, neighbor,
professor, long lost friend, lover or even a complete
stranger. When you see their eyes, you'll know
that very moment they will affect your life in
some profound way. And sometimes things happen to
you and at the time they may seem horrible,
painful and unfair....but in reflection you'll
realize that without overcoming those obstacles,
you would have never realized your potential,
strength and your willpower or heart.

If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks
your heart, forgive them. For they have helped
you learn about trust, and the importance of
being cautious, to whom you'll open your heart to.
But if someone loves you, love them back
conditionally. Not only because they love you,
but because they are teaching you to love, and
opening your heart and eyes, to things you would
have never seen, or felt without them. Everything
happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance,
or by means of good or bad luck. Illness,
injury, love, lost moments of true greatness and
sheer stupidity all occurred to test the limits
of your soul. Without these small tests, if
they were events, illnesses or relationships,
life would be like a smoothly paved, straight,
flat road to nowhere. It would be safe and
comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless. The
people you meet who affect your life, and the
successes, and downfalls you experience, they
are ones who create you to become who you are.
Even the bad experiences can be learned. Those
lessons are the hardest and probably the most
important ones. Make everyday count.
Appreciate every moment and take from it
everything that you possible can, for you may
never able to experience it again.

Talk to people you never talked to before,
and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love,
break free and set your sights high. Hold your
head up, because you have every right to. Tell
yourself you are a great individual, and
believe in yourself. For if you don't believe
in yourself, no one else will believe in you
either. You can make of your life anything you wish.
Create your own life and then go out and live it.


It takes strength to stand guard,
It takes courage to let you down your guard.

It takes strength to conquer
It takes courage to surrender.

It takes strength to feel a friend's pain
It takes courage to feel your own pain.

It takes strength to hide your own pains,
It takes courage to show them.

It takes strength to stand alone,
It takes courage to lean on another.

It takes strength to love,
It takes courage to be loved.

It takes strength to survive,
It takes courage to live.

If you feel you have neither, may the world
hug you today with its warmth, and love.


Some people promise forever but couldn't stay a minute.
Some people say they will be there but they couldn't care less.
But there are those who say they would stay for a while but never left.

Are you alone?

Alone?
What does that supposed to mean?
No friends? No family.. No money?
When we say that lonely word which is "alone", we tend to feel that creepy feeling till some of us shivers to death..

14 February,
The days where lovers celebrate their love with their love one (of course u idiot)..
It is celebrated across the globe or the universe?..
Some even celebrating it without knowing the history of the celebration..
I guess thats just human, we just follow blindly.. Not even knowing whether we should or we should not..

So,
What am i trying to say here?
Celebration? Valentine's day? Alone?
None of the above..
It's just that i feel like posting a post which is a personal thingy..
I often post things bout life, career, jokes, this and that but not bout me..
Maybe it's time..

Being 22 this year makes me feel that i'm old when i see school kids n teenagers nearby my house.. Their laughter, their smile, their happiness.. I am so jealous!!
I miss the good old days.. Sigh...
Owh coming back to our topic, What i want to say is i wish that life could be much more easier.. Would it?

Yeah i go out with lots of gals, but at the bottom of my heart..
The loneliness is there.. Wish that somebody could fill that for me..
I found that people says i have that playboy or kasanova looks.. Yes i agree with that.. My eyes can't stop staring at girls (onlt the beautiful and sexy one)..,
But then, It is so damn hard for me to accept someone in my life..

This year..
I hope, wish (not toyota wish) and pray that there will be someone for me..
Are you the one? ha2... send me a text now.. If only u know my mobile number.. he3..
I guess thats all from me... Adios Amigos..

Our career path lies in our very own hands.

Your career choice should depend on your perceived happiness on the job, the potential rewards, and your chances of success. This may or may not have anything to do with your college degree.

It used to be that your college course dictated the path your career would take. Such no longer holds true today, thanks largely to technological breakthroughs, increased job diversity, changing skills requirements and short-term learning opportunities. Agri-business graduates can now find work as web programmers, nurses as encoders, engineers as HR professionals, commerce graduates as hotel staff, and tourism graduates as bank tellers.

Nowadays, only specialized careers such as law, medicine, engineering and the like have stringent educational requirements. Increasingly, companies are starting to treat college education as just a basic foundation for employee skills building through training and development at work. If you can communicate well, can do your math, and have good comprehension and analytical skills, you have a pretty fair chance of landing a very good job whatever your degree.

This development now poses a dilemma to a lot of graduates. Take a job you have prepared four or five years for in college? Or explore non-degree-related possibilities? If you decide to explore, what are your chances of success?

To help you find the answers, you first have to ask the right questions:

What are my real interests and penchant in life? Will I be happy if I take this job?
Many people enter college unsure of what they want to be in life, and this is a pity since the college years strongly impact on adult life. They take up a particular course for a number of reasons. There’s parental influence (‘’My father is a lawyer so I want to be a lawyer too.”). Another is peer pressure (“All my barkada are taking up engineering.”). There’s the perception that it’s a cool course to take.

If you took a course you wanted -- and you believe you will enjoy doing something along that line all your life -- then by all means hunt for a job related to your degree.

But if it was not a good choice for you -- and a related job would make you miserable and unhappy -- then consider applying for the job you really like even though unrelated. If you are not equipped with the right skills, consider taking specialized non-degree courses. That little investment will spell a lifetime of difference. A prospective employer may even give you credit for self-honesty and for having the guts to make a correction early.

When we opened a web production company a couple of years ago, one of the applicants for web designer was a lady who finished accounting and worked at a large bank. She loved the Internet so much she took special courses in web design after office hours, and later designed and developed her own personal web page.

Her skills were raw and limited compared to the other applicants. However, her interest and commitment to learn shone through and she was hired. In a few months, proper training and exposure enabled her to surpass her more skillful and experienced co-workers in job performance.

Will this career be financially rewarding?
One deciding factor for selecting a course is financial viability. This factor triggered mass enrollments for nursing, physical therapy, computer programming and other hot majors at one time or another. Later, oversupply and dwindling demand forced graduates in saturated fields to make a career shift.

Ask yourself if your chosen career is still financially viable. Your answer, together with those to the other questions above, will guide you down the right path.

Do I have an advantage or a handicap? What are my chances of success?
If you decide to take an unrelated job, check out the competition. Will your degree be a handicap or an edge? An engineering graduate going into HR management may have fewer people skills compared to a psychology graduate. However, he will do well in HR systems such as compensation because of his strong background in math. In fact, many engineers who excelled in the HR profession generally had their start in compensation.

Meanwhile, some entry-level jobs offer an equal start to everyone regardless of course. Clerical, secretarial and administrative tasks are very similar across departments, mostly involving data input, report preparation, record-keeping, coordination. If you are content to stay in such jobs all your life, then there’s no need to worry about whether you have a competitive edge or not. But if you want advancement, then this is something to look into.

Taken together, here is how the questions can be used to guide you:

Are you happy with your course and do you look forward to a career connected to it? If you answer yes, do you think you will be happy with the potential monetary rewards? If you believe you will be, then you could pursue this path.

If you don’t want a course-related career, then look at your other options. Evaluate whether there exists a level playing field in your job of interest, and whether you have a competitive advantage or a handicap. If there’s equal opportunity and your degree gives you an advantage, you could take this route.

But if you feel at a disadvantage, then assess your chances of catching up and making it -- and whether you’re willing to take that chance. If you are, you could choose this path. If you are not, look for more alternatives and start over this line of questioning again until you come up with a positive response.

In the final analysis, your career choice should depend on your perceived happiness on the job, the potential rewards, and your chances of success. Don’t accept a job just because it matches your course or is the first one available. Make an earnest soul search first so you make an informed decision that you won’t regret later on. - Articles from Jobstreet.com

How to avoid falling into a relationship rut

It's Thursday night; and like every Thursday night, you and your sweetie are sitting on the couch sharing your favourite pizza and watching TV. Tomorrow, you'll both meet up at the local pub to catch up with friends like you do every week. Saturday morning is your standing date for breakfast together.

• Learn the difference between a rut and a routine. If you and your honey enjoy spending Thursday night in front of the idiot box eating take-out food, there's no reason to put a stop to it.
  
• It only becomes a rut when one night of TV becomes three or four or five nights and you're turning down invites because it feels like too much trouble to leave the house.
  
• If you watch TV one night, it's off the next night and you do something completely different.
  
• Keep separate interest. Have individual hobbies and interest so you don't lose sight of yourself in the relationship and so that you have something to talk about and share.
  
• Set out to accomplish new goals together.
  

- The Star

How to live a simpler, sweeter life

With the current economic situation, many of us are forced to re-examine our lifestyle and commit to living lives that are simpler.

- Accept the truth that you only have a finute number of minutes in this earth (nobody lives forever). Respect and celebrate each one.
- Say yes to the things that enliven you; say no to everything else.
- Unsubscibe to any email mailing list that you do not eagerly await (for example new car promotions, expensive clothes, dream house and etc).
- Take a breath before you eat anything (makes u appreciate the food more).
- Give yourself totally to the smallest of tasks. Whether shifting your car from first gear to second, pulling a bottle of lotion from the store shelves, listening to a friends talk or kissing your sweetie - be sure that you are completely yourself in every moment.

So, what are you waiting for? Start living a happy, simpler and sweetier life. :)

Why?

Life.

What does it means to you?
Is it something that meaningless?
Wake up early in the morning to get to school, college, work.
Its the same thing over and over again.
A cycle which never stops until the day we die.

The shit that makes us regret to be alive.
Regret that the things that we have done.
The dissatisfaction for not having the things that we always want.
The hatred among humans.

But Then,
What does LIFE means?
What does it means to us?
What do we think about our life?

I wake up early in the morning.
Knowing that i have to work to survive.
Knowing that without money, there's nothing much to talk bout, nothing much to do.
Without a job, i wouldn't survive.

Then,
Why am i writing this?
Why do i create blog?
Why do i follow others?
They have blogs too... i'm not much different compared to them..

Some people called me 'Mobile Google"
The thinking is too deep and not suitable with my age.
But then, age is only a number,
doesn't mean anything to me.

Still thinking?
Why do i have this? The Blog?
Why? Just can't figure it out huh?
It's simple....

Because i believe i'm different.
It's seems hard for me to stop talking,
I never stop to think..
There's always something on my mind..

But..............
If i keep it to myself,
There's no point... Nobody would benefit from it..
And that's the main reason why the blog is created.
For us to share our wisdom, knowledge, experience and thoughts.


"Winners don't do different things, They do it differently" - Ariff Syafik Bin Zulkifli